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Why is it bad to date/marry someone who is not a Christian?

The apostle Paul tells Christians clearly not to get involved on an intimate level with non-Christians.

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14

The idea of “yoking” comes from farming, where two animals are attached and forced to work together. The stronger animal will overpower the weaker and the plow lines would go astray. They must be two animals of similar size and work ethic.

A Christian could be pulled astray by a non-Christian spouse and led away from their faith. King Solomon slipped away from the Lord because he had hundreds of wives, many of them who worshipped other gods. His faith derailed in the end and caused him much confusion and unhappiness (see the book of Ecclesiastes).

In a marriage, belief and non-belief don’t mix.  We would hope that one with faith would convince the one without faith to believe in God, but that is never a promise.  It’s more like a possibility and a risk.

So a Christian should never even date a non-Christian.  This must be a non-negotiable.

This doesn’t mean we can’t be friends with non-Christians, but we must make sure that we aren’t pulled away from our faith as we attach ourselves to their lives through marriage.