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Where’s the Proverbs 31 description for men?

Proverbs 31 gives a detailed description of the “perfect” woman/wife. It’s a passage that puts a lot of pressure on women. The question is...where is that description for the man/husband? Aren’t they supposed to be “perfect”?

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:25-31

While Proverbs 31 gets a lot of attention when it comes to women, men have their own passages. Ephesians 5 gives instructions to a husband to love his wife as Christ loves the church. 1 Timothy 3 gives characteristics of a church leader. In fact the whole Bible is a reflection on what a man should do. Actually Proverbs 1-30 are full of instructions for a man in all that he does—as a male, as a husband, as a father, as a leader. Men do not get off the hook in the Bible.

Also, we can see the obligations of a man throughout Proverbs 31. There are things he must do to encourage his wife to be the woman God wants her to be. He must be respected (be of good character). He must support her. He must tell her that he loves her. He must be the spiritual leader of the family. A Proverbs 31 woman does not happen by accident.