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Is there only one soul mate waiting out there for me?

Then he prayed, “O LORD, God of my master Abraham, give me success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. May it be that when I say to a girl, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’-let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.”
Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah, who was the wife of Abraham’s brother Nahor. The girl was very beautiful, a virgin; no man had ever lain with her. She went down to the spring, filled her jar and came up again. Genesis 24:12-16

This is a tough, Catch-22 quandary. Certainly I would tell my wife, “You are the only one for me” but is that true? Abraham’s servant found a wife for Isaac by praying and God brought the perfect girl to him.  Is God’s job matchmaking?

There is no promise in the Bible that God has that one ideal person out there waiting for us. It’s not that our souls are incomplete puzzle pieces and only one match will complete it. Actually out of millions and millions of choices the odds are that you can find one or more people to be compatible with you. Many lose a spouse and remarry, revealing that probability. Even Abraham remarried after Sarah died.

The key is compatibility and commitment. Find that one person you get along with and commit to them and only them. Don’t wonder if “this is the one and only one” God has created for you.   Commit to one person for the length of your life.  They are now your one and only.

Others may come along and seem like a good fit, but if you’ve committed your life to another person, then it’s wrong.  Some are only a good fit at a particularly time in your life, fulfilling a need you have right then, but in the long run they could cause nothing but trouble.
As for the divorced, God is all about redeeming a bad situation and making it good.  If two people divorce, seek God’s forgiveness and learn from their previous decisions, then God could certainly bless a second marriage.

God influences hearts and creates opportunities for two to meet, but he’s not all about people getting married for the sake of marriage.

He primarily wants two individuals to display in their relationship God’s love for us and they show their love for one another.