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Is it better to be a Mary or a Martha?

She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” Luke 10:39-40

            Being a Mary is a good thing.  Being a Martha is a good thing.  Marys show their love by being in the moment relationally, sitting and visiting.  Marthas prepare the moment, showing hospitality, making sure everyone has what they need.

            Marys can come off lazy while Marthas appear distracted and distant.  However, both personality types are really showing their love, in different ways.  Marys show love through eye contact, questions and conversation.  Marthas show love through hospitality, prepping food and filling drink glasses.

            We need a personality with a balance of both.  Jesus saw that the moment required a Mary personality when Martha wanted Jesus to chastise Mary for her laziness.  He chastised Martha instead.

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”  Luke 10:41-42

            At that moment, with Jesus right there, it was time to sit down and soak it all in.  Certainly, though, Jesus appreciated all Martha did to make them feel welcomed, but it was time to shift gears and listen.