There is nothing wrong with sex. God
created it. He made our bodies to respond to it. However, as with anything,
there are certain parameters under which sex must operate in order to fulfill
its true purpose.
Sex is a complicated expression of
physical, emotional and mental components. The partners are being intimate,
bearing themselves before each other, trusting each other with their “naked”
self. It is so much more than a physical act, but a revelation of their true
self.
Once the sexual act occurs, a moment is
shared and a bond created. The relationship becomes intimate and wonderful (if
they are married) and complicated (if they are not). They wonder, "I just showed my naked
self to another, but can I trust that person?
Is he or she committed to me? Am
I just a means to pleasure or does he or she love the real me?"
God is trying to protect us from the
heartache associated with those feelings. While the physical act may be
consenting, there are other factors to be considered.
Sexually transmitted
diseases. There are sexually transmitted diseases that
occur in promiscuous relationships, especially if one person is consenting with
others as well. Diseases cannot be spread if two people are faithful to each
other in a marriage and have never had a sexual relations with anyone else
before.
Adultery. What if those two
consenting adults are married to other people? Is that okay? What about the
disintegration of commitment, trust and the family?
Emotions. Because of the emotional bond that occurs
with sex, uncommitted sex causes one party to become jealous if the other is
“consenting” with others and no long term commitment is made. Rages and
outbursts occur, sometimes to the point of murder. The law even designates this as a specific
type of murder as an “act of passion.”
True love. Sex is also deceiving. In premarital
activity, unhealthy bonds occur between consenting adults who do not really
love each other except in bed. They confuse love with sex. They are doomed for
a lifetime of arguments and mistrust if they continue to consent.
By waiting to get married before they
have sex and making a lifetime commitment of love, the couple will not wrestle
with all the intimate emotions that get confused with sex. Now they can enjoy sex, understanding it not
just as a physical act, but an intimate expression of their love.
There are lots of things wrong with sex
between consenting adults before they are married and God doesn’t want to see
us hurt. Since sex is such a powerful and intimate act, it must be limited to a
singular relationship where two people are committed to one another through
marriage in the sight of God.